To worry or not to worry

       Worrying about things we cannot change is a terrible waste of energy. Simply worrying is not going to keep problems at bay. Problems and challenges are part of life. Worry/fear is the result of the inborn conflict between the biological programming in us humans for survival and the undeniable inevitability of our mortality. 
        We live in an era of complexity and uncertainty which makes existence more difficult than it is meant to be. The solution is to move from worry to creative anxiety which is to say that instead of remaining focused on the problem, we become attentive to finding options and possible solutions. We need to bust the false urgency that worry creates, identify it and make plans to find ways out. 
        Acknowledging the impossibity of instant or overnight solutions helps us slowly but surely build stages towards our freedom from whatever is plaguing us. Setting short-term goals and accomplishing them brings self-confidence and optimism that equip us for the big fight. Trying to win it all in one go brings disappointment and pessimism. We must allow ourselves to be imperfect and rather than beating up on ourselves for the lacks and perceived blunders, see our mistakes as wisdom resources that instruct us in better choices in the future. 
       Last but not least we learn to practice true submission. Tomorrow belongs to God so let us hand over all the potentials, possibilities, burdens, perils and future circumstances to Him. Can there be a better custodian and guardian than the One? Ours is to submit to His will and His is to take care of the rest.

RIDICULOUS SIGNS THAT MIGHT MEAN YOU ARE IN LOVE

         Have you ever been in love? A lot of us are terrified to be in love and will deny its truth, even if all the signs are there. Even IF YOU HAVENT THE EVER DREADED L --word to your person, even if you are not officially , "together" and even if you have no intention to be in love, you very well might be.

        Love can present itself in mysterious, ridiculous ways, there are things you might be doing or things that might be happening that make you think--GUESS WHAT? Those things could mean LOVE:-

1. HE/SHE frustrate the living hell out of you and yet you still tolerate him/her. Hate and love are very similar. When you say, "I hate you so much"-It’s not what you mean at all.
2. It doesn’t matter what you are saying, you are just saying words because you are together, enjoying each other’s company.
3. You will go to crazy length to see each other.
4. The time you waste with him/her doesn’t feel wasted

5. You become obsessed with them. Even seeing their name on your phone’s screen makes you smile.

6. Even a 90 seconds call make you happier than anything else has all day.

7. Call duration lengthens and you forget about how many hours have past.

8. You start being conscious about your daily priorities, your looks, mannerisms, habits etc.

9. You start being conscious about how you look and think, “Would he/she like this outfit?”

10. You are never busy for that person even if you are endorsed with work load and deadlines.

11. He/ she frustrates the hell out of you and you tolerate it.

12. You feel concerned towards him/her and you want to know everything happening in his/her life let it be what inspires you to what you had in dinner.

13. Everything makes you think about him/her.

14. he/she would become the first person with whom you would want to share every news or problem with.

15. He/ She terrifies you. You know this person can hurt you more than anyone you’ve ever met before in your life. They make you feel vulnerable.