How to talk Sexy!!

Won’t you love to know! For most men it’s by saying ‘hey baby, you’re hot’ or giving complements to her eyes, features or body which is actually very superficial. On the other hand for women its quiet opposite, it’s by talking evasive and coy. What actually feels sexy is by creating a resonance or some affinity towards the other person.

What’s a resonance? It’s like creating a mutual understanding or relationship with the other person. To feel the connection so strong that you feel what the other person is feeling and you think what the other person is thinking. That way is attractive.

Every person in this world wants to be heard and felt. They want to be understood by others and appreciated. So when you approach others and connect with them and understand what they have in mind, how they have experienced certain things and concluded the results there’s nothing more relaxing and comfortable than that.

Imagine what it would be to have the ability to be able to put yourself in someone else’s footings. I was once at a Versace’s boutique and saw a sales girl. I noticed her from across the hall. When I approached near she was like all very cold and professional, showing me various articles. But I noticed that her accent was cold but her body was not. There was a hint of curiosity in her. So I made a small talk with her. Once she was comfortable I asked her how would it be like to meet these people outside from this setting maybe a party she agreed to it then I asked her how would it be like to know all of them, it started to stir her imagination then I asked her how would it be like to connect with a single person from here. We had a lunch together and that’s how the affinity worked.

When you develop the ability to experience what the other person is feeling, what are their thoughts, you start to know what are their hopes, their ideas, and their ambitions. You start to realize why they did what they did and why they made their particular choices. Knowing all of that really helps to be close to someone. I believe everyone have their own perspective about how they see the world.

Everyone in this world sees things differently. Their approach towards the experiences is as different as their genetic makeup. No two people will have exactly the same feeling for a thing that they experience together at same time. So knowing about what another person is thinking or be in their shoes is not an easy thing. I know it sounds weird but if you try you’ll know for yourself for example once I saw a beautiful girl at a party but she seem very obnoxious. Before labeling her with the title of a bitch I started observing her. Her posture of standing with tilted leg seemed she is uncomfortable and when I tried to get an affinity and think about how it is for her I felt that it’s painful to stand like that because of her shoes and the extremely tight trousers. So I approached her and after a small talk I said it is exhausting to be uncomfortable in such a nice party she exhaled and agreed and I asked her she can remove her shoes if that’s bothering which she accepted and we talked and when I told her about I actually felt what was bothering her she replied that she found a lost friend in me.

In the end it is easy to judge and rule off people as unapproachable but if you work on it maybe you find your lost piece, a forever wanted friend or a really great company and that’s what’s most sexy.